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Please let me know and I'll try to fix it

I'm having some problems with the big list of blogs.

Every time I update it, there's someone who needs to be moved. Sometimes the move is obviously a happy one — someone moves from "Adopting" or "Pregnant" to "Parents." Sometimes the move is unequivocally sad, when someone takes what feels like a great leap forward into "Pregnant," but then gets thrown cruelly back into "Trying." But a lot of the time, the moves give me pause.

What do I do when I know someone is straddling the line between "Trying" and "Adopting," planning that last cycle while confronting an intimidating mountain of paperwork? What do I do when someone is five minutes pregnant, when I know I wouldn't move myself when a positive was new and I superstitiously felt it was all so fragile?

It's hard to know, so I'm sure I make errors. If your listing makes you unhappy for any reason, please let me know and I'll try to fix it.

There are also times when someone's blog drops off the list because she's packed up shop and closed her site. Those are technically easy to remove, though I get a little pang when I do it. But there are more times when a blog has become inactive, where the writer hasn't posted in weeks, occasionally months. I generally leave those on the list not least because the blogs do have archival value, but also because I assume the writer will be back one day. But if you run across a blog that you know for a fact is defunct, please let me know and I'll try to fix it.

Finally, I don't update it as frequently as I should or as frequently as I'd like to. I generally process updates every three weeks or so. It takes a long time to do this; on that day not only do I visit every new site for which I've received an add request, I visit every site already on the list to confirm that they're still active, still relevant, and still in the right category. As our president would say, several times over with increasing incoherence, "It's hard work." But that is no excuse. If I get it wrong — if I leave you off when you've already asked nicely to be added — please let me know and I'll try to fix it.

I am not, of course, infallible. For this I apologize. Occasionally I even forget Poland. If you are Poland or any of its sixteen provinces (wojewodztwa), please let me know and I'll try to fix it, with the exception of Zachodniopomorskie, which can kiss my Kerry-voting ass.