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06/24/2007
Sunday sister smackdown
Attention infertiles! You may worry that once you've achieved pregnancy and parenthood, your sister-in-law, having run out of material, will stop saying horrible things to you. But allow me to put your mind at ease: I assure you that she will remain exactly the ass she has always been. If you're lucky, she may even get worse.
Paul's sister visited this weekend. When she got into the back of our car, wedging herself in next to Charlie, I told her she could shove his toys, which he flings to the floor in the occasional fit of seatbound ennui, over to the other side so that she'd have room for her feet.
She sighed and said, "Oh, I don't mind. I'm just so happy to see that since you had Charlie, you're not as good a housekeeper as you used to be."
I counted to ten — okay, ten million — then said, "You know, you've said that before, and it always sounds kind of awful, that you're pleased to think I'm having trouble. Schadenfreude."
"No, no," she insisted, "it just makes me feel better about how my own house went to pieces after I had kids. Now I know I can attribute it to motherhood instead of any shortcomings in myself."
"Maybe you can't, though," I said. "Maybe motherhood's not the problem. Maybe we both just suck."
I wanted to tell her that any perceived decline in my household standards has less to do with the demands of raising a toddler than it does with the fact that I no longer care to go out of my way to impress ungrateful passive-aggressive jackasses when they pay us the honor of a visit, but I thought that might seem...hostile.
As rotten as she made me feel, I feel sure some of you can top this. Tell me your best sister-in-law stories, please, anonymously if you prefer.
Posted by Julie at 09:12 PM in I've learned a lot...but I'm not sure it's worth it. | Permalink
Comments (257)
Long time lurker, but couldn't resist sharing. When my husband and I had suffered several failed fertility treatment cycles, we thought it may be time to tell his family, so they would understand over the holidays why we may not be as festive as usual. My sister-in-law completely freaked out and said she couldn't believe we were trying to have kids, saying that our lifestyle (going out for occasional drinks with friends), and us living in a big city would be toxic for children. Yep, that made me feel really great, it's not like I wasn't already depressed enough.
Posted by: anon at Jun 24, 2007 9:32:00 PM
Oh, my sister-in-law loves me. She's the sweetest thing ever and we get along great. But she seems to hate my sister. It's rather amusing, actually, at least for me.
Posted by: Julia at Jun 24, 2007 9:32:07 PM
Well, my sister in law is pretty nice, but on mother's day, I wanted to pop her in the face. I (for some stupid ass reason) volunteered to cook (COOK, for crying out loud, on MOTHER's DAY) for the family. I went all out, making some lovely kebobs on the grill and yummy finger foods and whatnot, all while silently cursing myself for doing this on "my" day. Sister in law shows up to my house with her two kids HUNG OVER with no makeup on, wearing fatigues and says "yeah, well, I'm here." You're here? You're HERE??? She then went on to sleep it off in my bed while I looked after her kids (and my own) and cooked for 10 people. I wanted to slap her that day.
Posted by: Holly at Jun 24, 2007 9:38:31 PM
I got food poisoning last month staying with my in-laws. My best friend and I had gone out with my SIL and her boyfriend. At dinner, I'd had a silly mixed drink, and an hour later, one small shot of tequila. The next day while I was puking my guts out between nursing my son who was running a high fever, she mentioned to my MIL that I was sick from drinking too much.
Posted by: at Jun 24, 2007 9:40:18 PM
"Here, I thought you might like this top I bought. I only wore it twice but it is just HUGE on me. Thought it might fit you."
Posted by: sisyphus at Jun 24, 2007 9:40:20 PM
My sister-in-law, to this day, continues to believe that my husband is gay and a compulsive liar. Given our 7-year marriage and two kids, I'm pretty sure he's neither.
Posted by: Pam at Jun 24, 2007 9:50:10 PM
No good SIL story, but my MIL hasn't acknowledged our kids' birthdays lately....
Posted by: whirled_peas at Jun 24, 2007 9:53:19 PM
Ok....In the SIL area I've been fairly lucky. We aren't overly close, but I don't think they hate me or anything. There was this one time though--with my MIL. I always wanted her to like me. She didn't. I didn't quite fit her mold of perfect person for her little boy. I wasn't cultured enough (ok, he's a truck driver) or pretty enough or whatever. When we found out about our fertility dilema, we told his parents. His mom was embarrassed. She swore it was all my fault. Ummmmm, I had already had a child when I married him, hello???? Anywhooo, I kissed this woman's ass. One year, she wanted a simple tabletop Christmas tree. So I found a really nice one, picked out the decorations for it, and went to set the thing up for her. I brought a friend of mine over who was pregnant. My friend mentioned something about us thinking about infertility treatments and my MIL said, "with her housekeeping, she doesn't need any more kids." She then went on to insult my mothering and my weight. And I was there to make sure her house looked good for Christmas. Oh well. You can't win them all......
Posted by: Sheri at Jun 24, 2007 10:01:44 PM
My sister-in-law is a stick figure who can eat a ton and never gains an ounce. She might weigh 115lbs soaking wet. I am pleasantly plump or a little pudgy, whatever you want to call it instead of the truth, which is I'm 50lbs overweight and due to having PCOS, hypothyroid, insulin resistance, and a true love of all things chocolate, a really tough time losing weight.
So I'm doing her hair for her company's formal Christmas party. I'm done and she's getting her dress and shoes and such together to get ready, when she makes the comment "I REALLY need the control top pantyhose with this dress." She almost went to the party with a big burn on her arm from where the curling iron "accidentally" slipped out of my hand. This was a classic comment from her, she's always commenting on how big her hips are, too. I try to tell myself she's really insecure, but it would be much more satisfying to just sit on her till she admits she's a stick figure and to promise never to complain about her body in front of me (or anyone for that matter).
Posted by: katie at Jun 24, 2007 10:02:54 PM
Do I have to pick one?
How about the time she told me my infertility was God's Plan (we're atheists)?
The fact that she always tells us how lucky we are not to have children, knowing how badly we want them?
Oh, how about her idea of kindness? When I was wretchedly ill with OHSS and finally admitted to the (failed) IVF, she commiserated by...telling me all about her childbirth experience. Yay!
Yours does get extra cookies for passive aggression, though.
Oh, and Sisyphus? Damn!
Posted by: akeeyu at Jun 24, 2007 10:07:46 PM
Hmm...where to start! I have too many evil SIL stories to choose from, unfortunately. There was the time my SILs decided they didn't want to be my bridesmaids any longer, and audibly made cruel comments about me throughout the festivities. Or the time I found out I was pregnant and due a few months after my one of my SILs. Said SIL, in front of everyone, preceded to yell at me for getting pregnant. According to her, this was HER time to be in the spotlight, and after her baby was born, she didn't want any attention taken away from the him. Did I mention that she told me I obviously got pregnant just to compete with her?
Yeah. I feel your pain ;)
Posted by: nicki at Jun 24, 2007 10:16:21 PM
Well, one of my SIL's is a lush who talks in a high-pitched "baby-talk" whiny voice that grates my nerves, but luckily I only see her once every 2 years or so. However, on a plus side, she is really nice to me-just a bit of a dingbat.
The other SIL and I get along fine, though I do get tired of hearing she and my mother complain about each other.
So, really, it could be worse (aka: see all of your entries above).
Posted by: Natalee at Jun 24, 2007 10:16:53 PM
Long time lurker here too.
My sister in law, after the death of her premature baby, said that she wished my child had died and not hers.
Posted by: MaggieBelle at Jun 24, 2007 10:32:49 PM
Holy crap Maggiebelle-
I am so sorry! (And I think you win!).
But kudos to all of you in that since you're posting these stories now, I'm guessing you've all refrained from justifiable homicide....(they don't have internet access in prison, right?).
And rock on for SAYING something so nicely, Julie. You rock.
Posted by: Susan at Jun 24, 2007 10:46:04 PM
Well my SIL actually likes me (god some of those stores are aweful!!) but she firmly believes that eating organic and taking these special vitamins and colonics that she does will get me pregnant. Oh, and relaxing of course. But at least she means well.
Posted by: Natalie at Jun 24, 2007 10:48:38 PM
My sister-in-laws think I'm terribly impressive and exotic because I'm European, and studied karate...
My FATHER on the other hand, responded to a group photo of myself, my husband, and a group of close friends on a lovely cabin retreat by saying "wow, there's a lot of chunky numbers in that photo!" I'm probably included in that. 5'8", size 16 = ginormous to him, he thinks petite dancers are "normal" women.
Posted by: Rosemary Grace at Jun 24, 2007 10:49:52 PM
Wow. These stories are REALLY sick! I don't have any, as I am not (and may never get) married (LOL).
However, a bunch of my co-workers once warned me of the evils of SILs... they said they were WORSE than mothers-in-law... I didn't quite believe it, but now I think I have to!
Posted by: Devon at Jun 24, 2007 10:50:31 PM
Longtime lurker here...Julie, unless there is something you aren't telling us, it really sounds more to me that your s-i-l is totally intimidated by you. Really. Backhanded compliment tho it might be, it really IS one.
I mean, I'm intimidated by you and I don't even KNOW what kind of housekeeper you are! ;-)
Posted by: bunny at Jun 24, 2007 10:54:09 PM
Maybe you should have explained about how you didn't have time to clean the cheddar bunnies off the floor because you had spent the previous 48 hours getting the house ready for her and her kids.
And then stirred some vital wheat gluten into her bosco.
Posted by: T. at Jun 24, 2007 10:55:20 PM
How about this Christmas when Sarge's sister did a similar thing and called both of us slobs to our faces. Yes, her actual word was "slob." She attributes a spot of dirt on dear MIL's guest room comforter to us when we stayed there....FOUR YEARS AGO. Four years ago, might I add, when my husband was first starting to have conversations with people I could neither hear nor see. We put our shoes on the bed, she claims. When I told her we don't even do this at home, she gave the phone equivalent of a shrug and said she knows what she knows. I hung up then.
I told my husband that staying with them overnight is not an option anymore. We're staying in a hotel for his brother's wedding. I could not be more pleased.
Posted by: Flicka at Jun 24, 2007 10:59:29 PM
lurker coming out....couldn't resist...
I love my SIL, I really do, but...
After our first miscarriage, we decided to try again rather quickly. Although she had never been pregnant or miscarried before, she felt the need to tell us that we were "only trying to have another baby to replace the one we lost". Wanted to kill her right then and there.
Then, a few months later (keep in mind our hearts that are still raw with baby loss) - she calls us and the conversation goes like this..."Hey, um, I'm pregnant, but we're eating dinner right now, so I gotta go. OK bye!" Seriously, wanted her to stop breathing.
Oh, the joy of in-laws....
Posted by: Ashley at Jun 24, 2007 11:00:15 PM
I do have to preface this by saying that I actually like my sister-in-law (mostly) very much. She did, however, tell me that her brother, my husband, is intimidated by beautiful women--which was why he was with me. Yep, that's right. When I made some comment about exactly how that made me feel, she said, "I knew you would take it like that!" I can't, for the life of me, figure out how I was supposed to take it . . .
Posted by: ali at Jun 24, 2007 11:15:31 PM
I haven't replied to a post in a loooong time but had to jump in on this one! (anon... because one SIL is infertile and um... you never know)
I have a very strange, yet simple to work around, food allergy. (So strange that I fear being 'outed' by stating it here. Think along the lines of garlic, but not exactly.) For about 10 years, before we did the necessary remodeling in order to entertain in our home, my SILs hosted most holidays and special occasions in their homes. Now, if you were inviting someone over that you KNOW has a food allergy, would you not make sure that there was at least SOMETHING that your guest could eat without getting deathly ill? That would be the proper thing to do, no? Well, that's never been the case. Ever. I have been invited over for meals at which there wasn't a single hot food on the table that I could safely consume. Thank God for bread and dry salad (because of COURSE the dressings all contain the offending item) or I would starve. Once, I stopped at Subway on my way to Christmas dinner and got myself a sandwich. When everyone else sat down to dinner, I went and got my sandwich and promptly plopped it onto my beautiful china place setting. When asked what I was doing, I politely replied, "I knew there wouldn't be anything here I could eat so I brought my own food." No one batted an eyelash. No one apologized. They just went about eating their nice Christmas dinner. Nice, huh?
I've since started controlling the situation by hosting most events at my house where I can prepare most of the food myself. With the "pot-luck" nature of most of our get-togethers, everyone usually brings a small side-dish or dessert. Sure enough, they ignore my allergy and actually bring things into my home that I cannot eat. When I ask about the ingredients I'm given unbelievable answers like, "I only put a *little*" or "I only put it down this end of the pan". Are they f***ing stupid? My reaction is so severe (which they've witnessed a few times) that comments like that are similar to "I only put a *little* bit of arsenic in the sauce". They just refuse to "get it".
Another issue... I was on bedrest with my last two pregnancies. First time, for 13 weeks at home with a 4.5 year old. Second time, for 1 month at home, then 26 days in the hospital with a 5.5 year old and a 10 month old. Never once did any of my 3 SILs offer to help out. Knowing full well that all of my family lives out of state. Now that's some sisterhood for ya'.
Gah. Other than those two things, I really do like them!
(Damn, I'm long-winded. Sorry!)
Posted by: anonforthis1 at Jun 24, 2007 11:18:55 PM
Me, hysterical:
"So, we found out Jim has no sperm. I just am in shock, we are just in shock."
Her, totally her:
"This is between you and your husband. NEVER speak of this again to anyone." CLICK.
Boy, she stuck to that FOREVER.
Posted by: jbeeky at Jun 24, 2007 11:58:27 PM
my sister-in-law broke the news of my pregnancy to my parents and brothers for me.
yeah, you see, i had started a baby registry soon after discovering i was pregnant. it wasn't so i could plead for gifts; it was so i could keep track of what i needed. however, i didn't realize that it was attached to my public amazon wishlist. we weren't planning on telling our families for another month or so.
my sister-in-law, during a ROUTINE GOOGLING of my name, stumbled across the registry, and instead of emailing me, she called my parents and said, "did you know that joanna is pregnant?" smugly (according to my father), like she had the ultimate gossip of all time.
my mother was broken-hearted that she found out this way.
awesome! hate her!
Posted by: joanna at Jun 25, 2007 12:02:23 AM
My husband has 4 sisters. Thank goodness there is only 1 evil one that doesn't like me. Of course she is the bad seed of the bunch, the one that left at 18 to be a call girl you know. Anyhow, I entered the family picture about 6 months after her miraculous return to the family. She hadn't ironed out her feelings or mishaps she had during the 8 years previous or all the hurt she caused the family. Somehow when she met me, I was the evil of all evil. So bad that on the weekend of my wedding shower, the family decided to have "meeting" in my honor that consisted of 5 siblings and both parents discussing what I was doing wrong, whether it was my use of "Dad" with my father in law or the fact that he and I had inside jokes, to the fact that how dare my MIL take so much interest in me and our wedding. My husband sadly was the first kid of 7 to meet a girl and not get her pregnant, not that he didn't do it 7 years earlier LOL but at least he tried the "right way" the second time. Oh and after 2 hours of being bashed by the whole family, I ended up in the hospital for 3 days with great case of cellulitus!
Oh and after 2 years of infertility her congratulations email consisted of how horrible a person I was and that I didn't try to be her friend hard enough. She's a real peach I tell you!
Posted by: Chelsea at Jun 25, 2007 12:04:51 AM
Well, we have a "baby talker" SIL too. I swear that I want to throttle her when she pulls that voice out to wheedle crap to BIL.
Posted by: erika at Jun 25, 2007 12:17:16 AM
Three days after my second ectopic pregnancy (ending in emergency surgery and the loss of a tube), my 5-months pregnant SIL and her husband called me on my cell after her ultrasound to tell me, in unison, "We're having a boy!" Then followed it up with "I'm a little disappointed cause I really wanted a girl." They already have a two-year old boy.
Enter two day sob-a-thon and week and a half depression that ended in a very embarassing lowpoint of downing too many vicodin with a bottle of wine. I think she felt guilty after my husband told her that she was either incredibly clueless or incredibly cruel or a little bit of both because she's been trying to "reach out" ever since. We speak now, but I don't know that we'll ever be close again.
Posted by: Casey at Jun 25, 2007 12:56:32 AM
My ex had brothers. And their wives and I, as diverse and disparate as we were, were all conjoined in an unholy alliance against our mother-in-law, which gave us a common enemy.
My mother-in-law, now... oy... she was the queen bitch.
~C~
Posted by: Catharine at Jun 25, 2007 1:05:18 AM
we're in the ER. her sister/my GF is laying on a gurney, bleeding with a chunky "period" that's gone on for a week and a half. if you're a reader here at alittlepregnant, you can imagine why this might be happening.
oh. and. i've never met her before. this is our introduction.
"so you're
"yeah. hi."
"knocked her up, did you?"
"so it seems."
"well, you did a shitty job cuz it obviously didn't stick!"
Posted by: anonymous at Jun 25, 2007 1:23:36 AM
My sil wanted to be the first in the family to have babies, because she was married first, but 4 years later she still didn't want any and when my son was born we named him "Ewan" she said she would call him "Urine".
She mellowed alot after she decided to have a few kids of her own.
Posted by: at Jun 25, 2007 1:46:19 AM
Wow, I will try to appreciate my three bumbling brothers-in-law a little bit more.
Posted by: Caris at Jun 25, 2007 1:51:11 AM
wow, there are some EVIL SIL's out there! Thank goodness mine are nice. I did have an aquaintance at my daughter's elementary school have this conversation with me:
Her: Oh, so you are pregnant?
Me: Yep
Her: Your daughter said you were, but I wasn't sure because your husband looks so old!
Uhhh...my husband is a 37 year old firefighter. And...aren't there like 80 year old men out there still knocking up women???
After the baby was born she told me "Congratulations" and "How does it feel to be a mom again when you're that old?" I AM 34 years OLD FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE!!!
Posted by: Gina at Jun 25, 2007 2:46:10 AM
SIL is in the hospital after having her 2nd child. I am on my way to an IUI and visiting her (clinic was across the street). I have endometriosis and had just recently learned that it had caused scarring and my left tube was scarred closed. She and MIL knew all this, so her comment was "Oh, but it's okay, because you're young, so you have plenty of time." Thankyouverymuch for your words of wisdom, not to mention compassion and tact.
Posted by: LaurieC at Jun 25, 2007 2:50:04 AM
No sisters in law but have plenty of mother in law gems. She is of the opinion that if god had meant us to have children he'd have given them to us by now. Etc.
Posted by: Feebee at Jun 25, 2007 4:14:58 AM
I am living with my in-laws currently, including one 15 year old SIL. She is fabulous most of the time, however the other day I turned off one of ten + lights in the room she was sitting in and she asked for me to turn it back on...I said something about wasting electricity and money (very nicely mind you) and she said "well you're not paying the bill are you?"
??? Oh My Gawd... (Sorry for the run-on sentence)
Posted by: Sam at Jun 25, 2007 4:27:18 AM
I adore my SIL, however she had to tell me and my sister how my parents had been invited to spend Christmas day at her mothers and had not helped wash up afterwards; "You can see they are used to having servants!" (They lived in Afica for 18 years). I suspect my sister told them as they have never spent Christmas together since!
Posted by: Coral at Jun 25, 2007 4:28:58 AM
Oooh SIL stories...
I have been TTC for a bit and suffered my first miscarriage. The family all knew as I was pretty distraught. Got the hang of it when it happened the second time, but you know what I mean. SIL (my BIL's wife) was about 4 mos. pg with her first, double whammy being that it was an 'accident'.
Anyway, about 2 weeks after my miscarriage, I got an envelope filled with her u/s pics in the mail. Without a note, just the pics with "OUR BABY" written on them. I thought "no one is that heartless".
But yeah, she was. And still is.
After quite a few other incidents (which my husband says are just her "not thinking" but you know what? I don't buy that anymore), I no longer speak to her. It's quite interesting at family gatherings, but I literally do not say a word to her. To me, she just doesn't exist. Not after that U/S stunt and a few other unbelievable things. By the way, she is now trying for her 4th so she can have 4 under age 5 as she just prides herself on those close gaps. I finally had my gorgeous one and only in 2004 and am feeling less upset by her antics. Oh yeah, the no talking thing helps too. :)
Posted by: Kyla at Jun 25, 2007 4:35:25 AM
I use to make up my SIL's bed on the living room futon, every time she would come to visit. Which was one weekend, every month. SIL and DH would never help. I was with a newborn at this point and I decided to make a joke of it. I bought some candies, to place on her pillow after I turned down her bed. She complained that "she preferred chocolate."
I don't make her bed up anymore.
Posted by: thrice at Jun 25, 2007 4:53:10 AM
Wellllll...my SIL tried to breastfeed my six-week old daughter.
Shudder.
My daughter had the good taste to scream and push away (well, she'd do that to me too, but still). The story is here: http://lifesjestbook.typepad.com/menita/2005/06/nipple_profusio.html
(too lazy to condense it here - or it could be the toddlers)
Posted by: Menita at Jun 25, 2007 5:19:01 AM
I have 3 terrific sisters-in-law (one was my biggest support after my late miscarriage - even though she was in her 9th month at the time, with twins). My other SIL doesn't get the fact that her brother is married and that our house is OURS. She completely ignores any rules we have... I feel completely displaced whenever she's here.
Posted by: Rachel Inbar at Jun 25, 2007 6:09:30 AM
well my sister in law pretty much ignores my kids except on their birthdays even though her other brother has kids the same age as mine and she spends alot of time with them, even babysitting them for the weekend. It would hurt her to get my kids a drink.
The less I have to see these mean spirited people the better
Posted by: Anon at Jun 25, 2007 6:18:44 AM
Okay, got a good one. When we had our first after a long struggle, I was complaining that I would not be able to affort to stay home and care for her. My sister in law, who got a rather large inheritence when her uncle died and has about 40k in the bank, made the comment that it has to do with priorities whether or not people stay home and raise their childrne...
Posted by: Robin at Jun 25, 2007 6:56:30 AM
My sister in law isn't so much a bitch to me, as she is a self centered twit. For example there was the time where my boyfriend/future husband and I were cozy under the blankets because there was a very bad snowstorm and his classes were canceled, only to have his sister and mother call him on the phone and tell him that he had to drive home to pick up his sister and bring her to class because it wasn't safe for her to drive. (I think he told her to stuff it, but only because I had my hands on him..literally) Then there was a few weeks ago where my husband had to drop everything on his very precious and limited time off and help her put her *beeping* *beeping* jeep top on. She drives me nuts, mostly because she single handedly sets back feminism about 50 years.
Posted by: Chickenpig at Jun 25, 2007 7:57:03 AM
This thing about the housekeeping, you are not alone.
Both my Mom and sister have outright said that they would like to see my house messy now that I have kids (and it's not that it doesn't get messy, my husband and I are just "quick pick-up people" when we have company).
My sister once said, "I'd just like to see some dirty clothes on the floor sometime or something."
Jesus, why? What does it matter? What if I came to your house and said, "I'd just like my shoes to not crunch on kitty litter every time I walk into your kitchen"?
It's the whole "we want to pull you down with us" thing.
Ridiculous.
Posted by: k at Jun 25, 2007 8:04:28 AM
Where to start? My SIL is Swedish and said in Swedish, the first time I was introduced to the family, that I was a fat American and Mike should have never started dating me. I understood every word. For Christmas she gave me a plastic measuring cup that still had the $2 price tag on it. She used to call me while my husband was at work and yell at me that I had to get a job and learn Swedish because I was nothing but a lazy gold digger.
Posted by: Carrie at Jun 25, 2007 8:29:28 AM
My SIL and BIL are VERY rich. For my daughter's 4th birthday , SIL gave her a Dora doll, unwrapped but still in the box. When her 6 year old daughter saw this, she said " I didn't like that doll when someone gave it to me!!"
SIL will also, instead of passing on clothing that don't fit her daughter anymore to us, sells them at the consignment shop!!!!! Did I mention the $100,000 renovations they just did on their house?!! Guess they need every penny.
Posted by: anonymous at Jun 25, 2007 8:31:46 AM
When I was on bedrest with a very complicated pregnancy, my husband asked his sister and her husband if they would mind coming over for the day to watch my fifteen-month-old daughter (they were both off of work that day) because my husband had just started a new job and couldn't take any time off. My sil asked how much we would pay her for the day, and when told that we didn't have any money (because dh had just been unemployed for several months!) she refused to come. My baby was born pre-maturely the next day, because I had to take care of my toddler myself and my blood pressure sky-rocketed.
Another sil got annoyed with me once when I was pregnant because she had wanted to get pregnant but didn't want to share the "spotlight". When my baby died at 17 weeks gestation, she immediately went off of birth control and was pregnant two weeks later, because now she could get all the attention.
Posted by: Leigh at Jun 25, 2007 8:54:11 AM
Reading all the PP's I'm glad my husband is an only child :)
Posted by: Sarah at Jun 25, 2007 9:08:39 AM
No SIL stories (have none) but my MIL sometimes really ticks me off.
My 2-year old was sick on the weekend of Mother's day, so we stayed home instead of visiting the in-laws. Then I miscarried and didn't feel up to the three hour drive (each way) while still bleeding like a m0f0, so we missed her birthday (with notice, mind you, and reason why).
We've met up twice since then, and are arranging another meeting. They changed the date for their trip across state and want to visit on the way out or back. My mother's birthday is when they'd be stopping on the way out there. Hubby mentions the date and I say, "that's Mom's birthday." Not as a warning, just as an "aha, that's coming up soon." He passes that along and MIL YELLS:
"OH, so they can't visit on MY birthday, but they have to SCHEDULE around HERS!"
Yes, dear, I scheduled my miscarriage on your birthday instead of my mother's so I wouldn't have to see your witchy face.
I never want to see her again, now.
Posted by: Another Anon at Jun 25, 2007 9:11:07 AM
